Changing The Story

I’m determined to change the story I’ve been telling myself for years. I have this resolve now with experience to back up my intention. My aim. My goal. Learning is a process. A spiral that will take you to lessons you thought you mastered. Round and round you go. I’m going to be courageous and not let fear or doubt hinder me. For my intentions are based on LOVE. Love for myself and more importantly love for God. Over the years I’ve journeyed through self care and I have come to realize that the greatest relationship you’ll ever have (Besides for me, the one with God) is the relationship with self. There you discover so much. So, I encourage you today to live fearlessly, love greatly and discover who you are.

Much Love & Light (In Christ),

“Raven” Reina

Remember, it’s a beautiful world. Take a closer look. Open up your heart and trust.

Family

Your family doesn’t always have to be the ones you share DNA with. It can be a work family. It can be a church family or a support group. What these families have in common are a common bond. This bond simply put is called love. It can bring a diverse group of people together. Love is like light. There is no darkness. So, if you’re questioning if there is love in these groups there is. No matter how great or small. Darkness is just the absence of light. There are some extreme cases where abuse is involved where you can’t tell someone that there is love there. So, we are strictly speaking about families that don’t have abuse in them.

I wanted to talk about families today because I notice how beautiful my family is. It’s a small one. It consists of me, my husband, and our two cats. Yes, the cats are included too. We live a simple and peaceful life. Jesse and I both work. The cats are the spoiled ones. They are cute enough so I guess it’s okay that they mooch off of us.

I appreciate the families that Jesse and I are part of. His family and mine. Ours are very different. My side of the family the majority of them are Republicans while his side are mainly Democrats. Both families have a Christian base. I have found over the years that my family have spread out when it comes to faith. My view is more liberal and New Age while my cousins are more mainstream Christian. On my inlaw’s side I’ve noticed that my mother-in-law is more of a Mindful Christian. She seeks peace and does meditative activities.

It goes to show that our families are diverse and that’s where you can find the beauty. What are your thoughts on the group of people you call family? Remember, it doesn’t have to be genetic.

Personal Power

Standing in your own personal power can be difficult. Whenever I find myself in a situation where I need to stand on my own and not be effected by the other universes around me I breathe. I’m a former smoker. I used to grab a cigarette for comfort. Now I just breathe and open up my heart space even wider. Tuning into my body and spirit helps calm my mind. I have to remind myself that I’m not the center of attention or the center of the Universe. That helps shift my perspective. It’s not about me. It’s usually about the people and situations around you. Yes, at times it is about you. I’ve been blessed to have mostly harmonious interactions with people. The majority of people are loving and peaceful. Every once in a while I’ll encounter a soul that isn’t at peace or very loving at the moment.

When I was going through my breakthrough/breakdown I was unfamiliar with the term personal power. I had a vague idea of what it was. It seemed elusive to me since I placed my happiness upon other people and looked outwardly for validation. Constantly seeking validation through every action I made. Praise me. Love me. That was the song I was singing years ago. Loudly I may add. Now days the song is a bit quieter. I still have much to unpack and get to the root of. I know now that it doesn’t have to be a rough and ruthless quest. It can be gentle, strong, and kind.

I’m still learning about personal power. What strength and sovereignty do I have in my life? How much mastery do I have over myself? How much does that effect others? What kind of responsibility do I have to myself and others wielding this power? These are the questions I ask myself. I know when encountering difficult situations I breathe, pray and proceed. The breath helps me center myself in order to ask God and myself how I can move forward. Once moving forward I see the beauty of my own soul and the energy within. The energy and presence of my own divinity helps connect me to myself and others in a unified way.

For those of you who desire a lesson in personal power I can only offer my personal experience. For I’m still a student. I feel like an old and young soul bound together in a human body. Almost every experience seems new and yet ancient wisdom seems familiar. New experiences help me grow and see beyond what this life offers. From the simplest experiences to the complex. I’m grateful to be alive and to learn more about the power within.

Blessings and thank you for reading my ramblings.

Take care dear reader.

Love,

Reina a.k.a. Raven Reina

“It’s a beautiful world. Take a closer look. Open up your heart and trust. ”

Reina (Raven Reina)

Nothing Personal

Human beings are interesting. I have always been a sensitive soul. My uncle growing up would advise me to have a tougher skin. To tell you the truth I haven’t lost my sensitivity. As my journey of personal growth has progressed I have noticed that my sensitivity is a strength not a weakness. There is no need for a tougher skin. More so a smooth skin. One that allows comments, energies , and behaviors to slide right off of me. Recently, I had an experience where I’m observing and inclusive of this individual. She has an abrupt manner and her voice is clipped naturally. You can’t change people. She can come off as cold. In fact, most of the time I feel like I am in her way or not worthy to be in her presence because she has a dismissive manner too about her. I know not all of this is totally true. She is a caring individual and is a sensitive soul as well. It’s hard not to take things personally. Very hard. Especially since I gravitate towards people opposite of me and want to have them like me. Can’t force anyone to like you too. So, what do I do with all of this? I know not to change and for me not to wish her to change. Simply enjoy the differences and lean into the discomfort. I also know to let whatever energies she is giving off and behaviors she is displaying play out and let her be. That gives me a sense of enormous freedom. I am grateful for my sensitivity and also my open mind. Have you experienced this before? If so, how did you handle it?

Healing

Dearest Reader,

It has come to my attention that healing doesn’t have to be this long complicated thing. In fact, the simpler the better. We all have our own triggers, traumas, and dramas that can be transformed into Love. So, my encouragement is to keep it simple and to lean into Love. Love love love. That’s it. Good night, day, or wherever you may be at the moment.

In Christ, Reina “Raven” Schochleton.

Happy Easter! He’s Risen!

Beloved Reader,

Happy Easter! Jesus has risen! I wish you well and that your life is lifted up by the inspiration of Jesus Christ. ❤ Today I reflect on his sacrifice but more so the fact that he is living! Living in our hearts and in heaven. That one day He will come back to earth. This is just my personal belief. One that I won’t shy away from. His radiance can be felt. If you want to receive Him. The one liner that had opened up the door to Him (God) is John 3:16.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Many many blessings to you this joyous day.

Shine Your Light with Self Care

Shine Your Light

During these hard times it’s difficult to remember to stand in your light and shine. Your presence in the world makes a difference to those around you. One way to tap into your inner light is by making sure you’re taking care of yourself. Self-care is unique to everyone. For me, self care means having a routine. I have a routine that I like to adhere to. On ideal days where I’m not rushing off to work I like to read The Daily Word. (Daily Word) I also like to draw a card from one of my oracle or Tarot decks. I also have a gratitude daily calendar (https://gratefulness.org) that provides me with inspiration. Starting the day off on the right foot with positivity is key for me. I also allow myself simple pleasures in life. One small simple pleasure that I allow myself daily is at least one cup of coffee. This helps me to feel pampered.

I also like to start my day out with movement. I have been working out at home and found much success with it. I am able to move freely without judgement at home. Gyms in the past have gone to waste because of having to travel and it’s so easy to skip the gym before or after work. The program that I do is called Team Body Project. (http://www.teambodyproject.com) After movement I like to care for my skin by showering and cleansing my face. The time spent on cleansing my face & putting on makeup helps me feel more beautiful and is another way I feel special. I’m taking the time to acknowledge myself and have positive action steps to go along with it. I hope this helps give you an idea of self-care and how a daily routine can make all the difference in the world for an individual. What are some of your selfcare routines?

Remember, it’s a beautiful world. Take a closer look. Open up your heart and trust.

Creativity

It seems like it’s years since creativity flowed from me. I had stumbled upon old YouTube videos of mine. I made mainly makeup tutorials. I long for those days. For some reason since my 2017 breakdown I felt like I lost my touch when it comes to being creative in that way. I know in truth I haven’t lost anything. That it’s all within me. So, 2021 is going to be the year that I dive back into making videos. I’m going to find a way to create makeup tutorials again. My husband is 100% supportive of my endeavor. He even bought a microphone for me to do voice-overs for the makeup tutorials. I need to get software for editing the videos at some point. Jesse will help me with that. I’m looking forward to sharing my hobby with the world. Below is a link to my latest YouTube video. It features my favorite things. Enjoy.

Remember, it’s a beautiful world. Take a closer look. Open up your heart and trust.

Processing Grief

More than a month ago my aunt passed away. I have been processing my grief with a counselor. I didn’t talk to my aunt as often as I feel like I should have. Before she passed she reassured me that it was okay that I didn’t keep in touch that often. She understood that I was busy. As an adult I have come to realize that I like my solitude. I enjoy my own company and don’t really have much to say when I am in a conversation. There are few people who can keep me talking. Off the top of my head I can only count two people that can keep me talking and that I feel 100% comfortable doing so. You can see why keeping in contact was difficult for me.

My aunt was a generous woman. She was generous with her time. She volunteered her time to the church. She loved babies. She would volunteer to take care of the babies in the nursery while service was performed. She also was a great listener. She had really good advice. I remember going to her for wisdom. She was also a very strong Christian. She would encourage me in my walk with Christ. We had a few Bible studies together. We also connected in the fact that cooking wasn’t really our thing. I felt a great sense of relief to hear that from her when I first got married. I had this notion that I should enjoy cooking and that I should be the one to cook. Once I started to realize that it takes two people to cook and that I didn’t have to enjoy it I felt a sense of freedom.

Her memorial service went well. It helped give me a sense of closure. I wore her favorite color. Yellow. I saw old friends of the family come to support us. It was nice to see so many people show up to show their respects to her and our family.

I’m allowing myself to feel all the feelings that I have surrounding her death. I am grateful that I have uncomplicated grief. I had said everything that I needed to say to her before she passed. I also was able to hear her concerns before she died. We always had a good relationship. Knowing that helps me with my grief.

I will always remember her and will honor her memory. It will be an easy date to remember when she passed. The day after Valentine’s Day. I wish you reader well when grief knocks on your door.

“Remember, it’s a beautiful world. Take a closer look. Open up your heart and trust.”

-Raven Reina